"Always trust a man by his actions, not his words. With men, you always know they care and value the things they spend on. There’s all this talk about OF “whores”, but no one talks about the fact that married men (especially trad leaning ones) spend thousands a month in OF. " Excellent point. They totally deny it though. But once you've …
"Always trust a man by his actions, not his words. With men, you always know they care and value the things they spend on. There’s all this talk about OF “whores”, but no one talks about the fact that married men (especially trad leaning ones) spend thousands a month in OF. " Excellent point. They totally deny it though. But once you've been hit on by enough married with kids conservative guys (and they're always the ones), you just have to say "okay, whatever you say" to their denials. However, I do feel very bad for their true-believing wives, who believe their act. This is a complete epidemic in Utah...SO many divorced former trad-wives who were completely stunned and shocked when they found their husband's burner phone or discovered all his OF and real life whores.
To a certain extent, I also do feel bad for my fellow women. Nonetheless, I do feel the core of the issue is psychological integration of the shadow and “light” sides of being a female. Religious dogmatism (always follow biblical womanhood, mother Mary if you’re a Catholic …) keep women away from embracing their inner dark feminine/slut/“bad girl”. These women also shame women who lead with this energy or are actually trying to integrate it (the way to personal power which translates in power couple/ “I would do anything for you” relationships).
I also have my doubts whether a majority of womanhood simply lacks the courage and psychological strength to fit the “powerful queen” archetype. Like Walt says, there’s always going to be the “whores” but since the whore is the dark femenine archetype that leads to the queen, you can always make a queen out of a whore. (One of the most prominent Byzantium queen was actually a prostitute). But the “trad wife” archetype is so disempowering, men know this, so they will likely cheat to get their dose of “dark femininity”. Even most disempowering is women staying, thinking that the “gooder” they are the better.
Something I am applying to myself and my life is “Be a total bitch until someone has proven worthy to see your empathy and love”. The key is integration of the shadow and the light. Also not believing for one second that men love submissive tradwives.
"Always trust a man by his actions, not his words. With men, you always know they care and value the things they spend on. There’s all this talk about OF “whores”, but no one talks about the fact that married men (especially trad leaning ones) spend thousands a month in OF. " Excellent point. They totally deny it though. But once you've been hit on by enough married with kids conservative guys (and they're always the ones), you just have to say "okay, whatever you say" to their denials. However, I do feel very bad for their true-believing wives, who believe their act. This is a complete epidemic in Utah...SO many divorced former trad-wives who were completely stunned and shocked when they found their husband's burner phone or discovered all his OF and real life whores.
To a certain extent, I also do feel bad for my fellow women. Nonetheless, I do feel the core of the issue is psychological integration of the shadow and “light” sides of being a female. Religious dogmatism (always follow biblical womanhood, mother Mary if you’re a Catholic …) keep women away from embracing their inner dark feminine/slut/“bad girl”. These women also shame women who lead with this energy or are actually trying to integrate it (the way to personal power which translates in power couple/ “I would do anything for you” relationships).
I also have my doubts whether a majority of womanhood simply lacks the courage and psychological strength to fit the “powerful queen” archetype. Like Walt says, there’s always going to be the “whores” but since the whore is the dark femenine archetype that leads to the queen, you can always make a queen out of a whore. (One of the most prominent Byzantium queen was actually a prostitute). But the “trad wife” archetype is so disempowering, men know this, so they will likely cheat to get their dose of “dark femininity”. Even most disempowering is women staying, thinking that the “gooder” they are the better.
Something I am applying to myself and my life is “Be a total bitch until someone has proven worthy to see your empathy and love”. The key is integration of the shadow and the light. Also not believing for one second that men love submissive tradwives.